I’m Kayla. I’ve dated across cities like Lagos, Nairobi, Accra, and Joburg. Not a tour. Real dates. Real chats. Some wins. Some weird stuff. You know what? It felt big and small at the same time. Big lives. Small circles.
Let me explain.
If you’d like an even deeper dive into the highs, lows, and in-between moments, check out my full, no-filter recap of dating wealthy Africans where I break down every lesson in granular detail.
The apps that actually got me dates
I tried a mix. Some “elite” apps. Some regular ones with Travel Mode. Here’s what happened.
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Luxy: The checks are strict. Photos. Income claims. It felt flashy, but I matched with a founder from Port Harcourt. Oil services. He picked a quiet jazz spot in Lagos and ordered suya like a pro. He was kind to staff and calm on money talk. Green flag. The app can be slow, though, and lots of show-off photos. My tip: ask for a quick video call before you get dressed up. If you’re curious about how Luxy stacks up overall, this in-depth Luxy app review lays it all out, and a no-fluff second opinion offers another take before you download.
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The League: Slow waitlist. Pretty picky. I matched with a Nairobi VC who lived in Karen. We met at a leafy cafe near Karen Blixen. Work talk was crisp, almost too crisp. He wanted dates midweek at 3 p.m. I have a job, so no. If your schedule is flexible, it helps.
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MillionaireMatch: Older crowd, more direct. I video chatted with a cocoa exporter in Abidjan. He brought up prenups on call two. Not rude, just… heavy. The app felt safe, but messages can read like business memos.
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AfroIntroductions: Not a “rich-only” app, but I met a fashion entrepreneur from Accra. He ran around the region a lot. We grabbed small plates at a rooftop near Osu. Lively, loud, and fun. But he kept rescheduling. Travel life comes with that.
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Bumble and Hinge: I used Travel Mode for Lagos and Johannesburg. I met a dermatologist in Joburg. Saturday at Neighbourgoods Market. Daytime. No drama. We talked skincare and street art. Felt normal and safe. Honestly, that was my favorite kind of date.
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What the dates felt like, day to day
A few dates came with drivers and tight plans. Sometimes an assistant texted me the time. At first, it felt intense. Then it felt… organized. Public places were the move. Hotels with bright lobbies. Known restaurants. Good lighting. It lowers risk and the stress.
Talk topics? Family. Work. Giving back. That came up a lot—scholarships, clinics, art schools. A banker in Lagos helped fund a coding club in Yaba. He lit up when he spoke about it. That mattered to me more than the car keys on the table.
One man wanted to send me a new phone before we met. I said no thanks. I like gifts after trust, not before.
Green flags I learned to watch for
- Respect for staff. Always shows character.
- Arrives close to the time set. Wealthy or not, time is time.
- Doesn’t rush for your full name or home address.
- Offers a video call before meeting. Good safety. Good tone.
- Talks about real work, not only “I’m into crypto.” Real stories have details.
Red flags that popped up, more than once
- All photos with cars, zero friends or family. Thin story.
- Push to move to WhatsApp in minute one. Then they vanish and return at odd hours.
- “I’ll buy you something big if you meet tonight.” That’s pressure. Hard pass.
- Money asks. “Send airtime.” “Buy gift cards.” No, and also no.
I do simple checks. Google. LinkedIn. A quick video call. If the camera stays off, I don’t go.
Culture notes that mattered
Africa is huge and mixed. Wealth in Lagos felt fast and artsy—Art X Lagos nights, bold fashion, big laughs. Nairobi felt outdoorsy, with calm weekends and quiet houses. Joburg had a cool edge and direct talk. Accra felt warm, with music everywhere.
A totally different vibe shows up once you cross continents; my recent European dating sites review proves how location can rewrite every rule you think you know.
Family can be close. Traditions may guide choices. In South Africa, someone mentioned lobola while talking about long-term plans. It wasn’t pressure; it was context. I listened and asked questions. Respect goes both ways.
Money talk: how I kept my balance
Some dates paid for everything and waved the bill away. I still offered. I also picked spots sometimes. A nice brunch. A gallery ticket. It keeps me steady. I don’t “owe” anyone. If someone gets annoyed when I offer to split? That’s a tiny red flag for me.
Safety, without the lecture
- Meet in public. Daytime is your friend.
- Share your location with a buddy.
- Don’t send IDs or travel plans to strangers.
- Keep your own ride if you can.
- Trust the weird feeling. It’s there for a reason.
Who this scene suits
- You like big dreams and long stories.
- You don’t mind schedules that change.
- You can handle distance and airports.
- You want care, but you also want your own life.
My bottom line
Dating wealthy Africans was exciting, but not because of the money. The best dates felt grounded. Kind. Curious. The worst? Loud on the surface, empty inside. That’s the truth anywhere.
Would I do it again? Yes—slow and smart. I’d stay on apps with good checks, pick bright places, and keep my voice steady. The right match will meet you there.
And if you’re wondering if people are real on those apps—some are. Some aren’t. Ask for a quick call. Drink water. Wear comfy shoes. Then go meet the human, not the wallet.