I didn’t grow up with dating apps, swipe culture, or ghosting.
I grew up thinking you met someone through friends, work, or at a bar, asked them out, and moved from there. Simple. Then life changed. Phones got smarter, apps took over, and suddenly dating became this strange mix of marketing, psychology, and luck.
Somewhere in that shift, I realized something important:
most men are trying to figure this out on their own.
This page is my story—and why I decided to create The Man’s Guide to Modern Dating.
How I Got Here
I’ve been a lot of things in my life:
• the shy guy who didn’t know what to say
• the “nice guy” who never made a move
• the guy in a long relationship that quietly fell apart
• the guy staring at his phone, wondering why no one was replying
I’ve felt the frustration of dry conversations, unanswered messages, awkward first dates, and the weird mix of hope and disappointment that comes with modern dating.
But I’ve also experienced the other side:
• that first date where the chemistry is real
• the moment a conversation just flows
• the feeling of walking away from a date proud of how you showed up
None of that happened by accident. It came from getting honest with myself, learning the skills no one taught me, and treating dating like something I could actually improve at—not something that “just happens” if I’m lucky.
What My Life Looks Like Now
These days, my life is a mix of:
- Work, gym, errands, real-world responsibilities
- Voice notes with friends about what actually happened on last night’s date
- Screenshots of profiles (mine and others) I use as examples
- Notes in my phone about patterns I see, things that work, and things that definitely don’t
I’m not a therapist, a pickup artist, or some guy pretending to have everything figured out.
I’m a regular man who decided to pay attention.
I test what I talk about. I try, I fail, I adjust. I care about showing up as a better man—not just to attract someone, but to actually build something real when I do.
What I Believe About Dating
Here’s what guides everything I write on this blog:
1. You don’t have to be perfect, just honest.
Women don’t need a flawless version of you. They need a real man who knows who he is and what he wants.
2. Your life comes first.
Dating is easier when your life already has direction, growth, and purpose. A relationship should add to your life, not be the only thing in it.
3. Confidence is built, not gifted.
No one wakes up one day magically confident. You build it rep by rep—through conversations, small risks, and choosing not to disappear when things get uncomfortable.
4. Men deserve good advice.
Not just “be yourself” and not manipulative scripts either. Real, practical guidance that respects you and the women you’re meeting.
Why I Started This Blog
I started this blog because I got tired of two extremes:
- content that treats men like broken projects
- and content that treats dating like a game to be hacked
I wanted a space in the middle—a place where a man can say:
“I want to get better at dating,
I’m willing to work on myself,
and I still want to be treated like a human being.”
So I write for guys who want:
- better conversations
- better dates
- better boundaries
- and eventually, better relationships
Not from tricks—but from clarity, intention, and growth.
What You’ll See From Me
On this site, I’ll share:
- real stories and lessons from my own life
- breakdowns of what works on apps (and what doesn’t)
- mindset shifts that make dating less confusing
- ways to show up as a stronger, more grounded man
My life isn’t perfect. My dating life isn’t a movie. I still make mistakes, still learn, still adjust. But that’s exactly why this blog exists—to document the process, not just the highlight reel.