Quick outline
- Who I am and why I tried them
- What counts as a real senior dating site (and what to avoid)
- My hands-on reviews: OurTime, SilverSingles, Stitch, SeniorMatch, eHarmony, Bumble
- Real chats, dates, and one weird scam try
- Prices, small print, and who each site fits
- Safety tips and my final take
Hi, I’m Kayla—and yes, I’m 62
I’m a grandma of two. I garden, bake too many blueberry muffins, and still love Motown on long drives. I was married a long time. I’m a widow now. Curious what dating a widow is really like? This honest review can help. The house got quiet, and you know what? I missed laughter at my table.
So I tried a handful of “granny” dating sites. I don’t love that word, but folks search it, so let’s talk plain. I spent real time on each one. I paid for a few months. If you want a blow-by-blow account of what one month on a single site can really look like, this deep-dive shows the highs and lows. I went on coffee dates. I hosted one group chat. I met nice men, and a few odd ducks. Here’s how it went.
What even is a “granny dating site”?
Some sites are for people 50+ and feel safe and calm. Others use the word “granny” but push adult content or fake profiles. I skipped those. I wanted real people, not a circus.
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The ones that worked best were senior-first or had strong age filters. Less noise. Kinder pace. More real talk.
The short list I actually used
OurTime: Busy but friendly
- My setup: I used it for 3 months. Paid monthly so I could message back.
- What I liked: Filters by age, distance, and “smoker/non-smoker.” The “I’m Interested” swipe game made slow nights feel less slow.
- Real moment: I matched with Ron, 67, a retired firefighter who grows tomatoes like it’s a sport. We traded photos of our gardens. We met at a diner for pancakes. He wore a navy cap and said, “I’m more nervous than a rookie.” We laughed, and it broke the ice.
- What bugged me: Lots of “wink and vanish.” Some folks don’t reply after matching. The app froze on me twice. Not a deal breaker, just fussy.
SilverSingles: Slower, more thoughtful
- My setup: I took the long personality test (took me a mug of tea and a cookie).
- What I liked: Fewer random people. Daily curated matches felt calm. Simple UX—big buttons, easy fonts.
- Real moment: I matched with Gene, 68, who makes stained-glass lamps. We did a short video call first. He showed me a blue lamp he made for his sister. The call was 12 minutes. Then we planned a walk at the lake. Safe and sweet.
- What bugged me: Not many local matches in my small town. I had to widen my radius to 60 miles. Also, messaging is paywalled, so free mode felt like window shopping.
Stitch: Not just dating—community for 50+
- My setup: I joined two months. Joined group events online and one small coffee meetup.
- What I liked: It feels like a clubhouse. Book chats, travel talks, trivia. You can spark friendship first. That matters if you’re rusty.
- Real moment: I hosted a Saturday “Soup Stories” chat. Five people showed up. We each shared a recipe and one winter memory. A widower named Paul, 71, told a funny story about a soup that exploded in his blender. I laughed so hard I snorted. We grabbed coffee the next week—no pressure, just warm company.
- What bugged me: If you want fast romance, this is slow. But slow can be good. It helped me ease back in.
SeniorMatch: Straightforward and no fuss
- My setup: One month paid, one month free to peek around.
- What I liked: Profiles felt real and plain. Big photos. Easy search. It reminded me of old Facebook, but less loud.
- Real moment: I chatted with Mike, 66, a bass player from a church band. We compared notes on sore knees and cooking for one. He sent a picture of his guitar pedals, and I sent a photo of my lemon bars. We didn’t date. We still swap recipes.
- What bugged me: A few profiles had one blurry photo and three words. I reported one obvious fake (no location, odd grammar). Support replied the next day and removed it.
eHarmony: Serious road, higher price
- My setup: 3-month plan. I turned on age filters 58–75 and “no smoking.”
- What I liked: Guided prompts helped me write a fuller profile. It felt like homework, in a good way. Matches were more aligned on values—faith, family, money, all that.
- Real moment: I matched with Robert, 70, a retired math teacher who bakes perfect sourdough. We traded “deal breakers” early. We did two video calls, then met at a small museum on a rainy day. We’re still talking. Slow and steady.
- What bugged me: Not cheap. And the app pushes longer plans. If you’re still testing the waters, that’s a big leap.
Bumble (with tight filters): Free-ish and lively
- My setup: I set age to 55–75 and limited the distance to 25 miles.
- What I liked: I messaged first, which sounds scary but cut the awkward. “Hi, I’m Kayla. What’s your go-to Sunday breakfast?” worked well.
- Real moment: I matched with Stan, 69, a retired mail carrier who bikes at sunrise. We met for donuts. He brought dog treats for my terrier, Lacey. Lacey approved. Me too.
- What bugged me: Tons of swiping. Some men wanted “35–45” even when they set their upper age high. I rolled my eyes and kept moving.
Prices I paid (your area may vary)
- OurTime: about the price of a casual dinner each month. Messaging needs a paid plan.
- SilverSingles: mid-to-high range—cheaper if you commit for longer.
- Stitch: lower monthly cost; some events are free, some need membership.
- SeniorMatch: mid range, simple tiers.
- eHarmony: higher than the rest, but the matching felt deeper.
- Bumble: free to start; paid boosts exist, but I did fine without them.
Prices change. I don’t chase tiny discounts. I pick the place that fits my pace.
If you’re still weighing costs and features, SeniorLiving.org’s updated comparison of the best senior dating services breaks down price tiers at a glance.
The good, the meh, and the “oh no, thanks”
What I loved
- Kind, slow chats that felt human
- Video calls before meeting (safe and easy)
- Real hobbies on display: gardening, line dancing, pickleball
What I didn’t love
- Fake profiles show up now and then
- Lots of “likes” that go nowhere
- Apps that nag you to buy more features
One weird thing
- I got a “widower engineer on a rig” message asking to move to a chat app fast. Then he wanted gift cards “for his daughter’s birthday.” I reported and blocked him. Poof. If it feels off, it’s off.
Who should try what?
- Brand new or shy? Start with Stitch. Join a group talk. Warm up first.
- Want lots of local matches? OurTime or Bumble with firm filters.
- Want fewer but better matches? SilverSingles or eHarmony.
- Like simple screens and straight talk? SeniorMatch.