Sometimes I wish I could be more like Usher. Or Chris Brown.

Minus that whole fisticuffs incident.

Hitting the club on a Saturday night, looking and smelling fabulous, sliding my way through the dance floor and hypnotizing the women with my moves.

But I was born with my White turned all the way up to 11.

So my dance floor game isn’t my strength.

Though there are a few lucky souls who have experienced my alcohol-fueled brand of rug cutting.

I much prefer daytime spots.

Specifically, cafes.

Here’s why:

1. They’re chill and by their nature, relaxing.

2. I’m actually a huge nerd who spends my day creating things on the web. And cafes have wifi. And espresso.

3. Girls go to study, read, work, chill, click around on the internet, whatever. And more often than not, they welcome a cool distraction.

4. When you meet one, you’re [sort-of] already on a date. And you can use this to setup a perfect frame for escalation later (which all those fancy guruz tell us is sooo important.)

“I know I might look the kind of guy that sleeps with someone on the first date, but i’m not. I need trust and connection. So you’ll have to take me out again.”

5. Eavesdropping on other peoples dates and conversations is just plain fun.

Let’s get into the shit, shall we:

We’ll cover one cafe “approach” today and more in future installments of How To Meet Women in Cafes

In a situation where you’re sitting next to the girl.

I think I stole this from Sinn.

Get up as if you’re going to the bathroom (don’t say this) and be like “hey would you mind watching my stuff real quick?”

Her: “sure.”

You: “cool, if anyone tries to steal it - just beat em up.”

She’ll smile or laugh. You can’t really mess that line up. It’s that ridiculous.

PRO-TIP: you having a little smirk will help.

Go do something for a couple of minutes.

Don’t take more than like 3 minutes, so she doesn’t think you’re dropping a deuce. Let’s keep her image of you pristine for the moment, shall we?

Good.

When you come back, tell her she’s hired as your new body guard. If you’re feeling it, put your hand up and tell her “high-five.”

At this point, she’ll think you’re awesome - so now just be a normal dude and ask what she’s working on…

No need to get all fancy with some pickup artistry or anything.

She’ll probably ask you what you’re working on, hopefully it’s something interesting and cool…

And you can tell her about that.

But no worries, man! Just have a conversation.

It might go really well, it might peter out,

But what I do know, is that using that “bodyguard” technique will make her react, because it’s irresistible - and you’ll get to experience the super-satisfying rush that comes with creating attraction.

Without even putting yourself in a position to be rejected.

Now that’s what I’m talm’bout!

We’ll get more into specifics about actual conversation dynamics in future posts - but seriously, I truly believe we all need practice just moving our mouths.

Not “seducing women.”

But more spontaneous conversations, with more people, in more people.

This alone will improve your success with women better than a product.

But if you WERE going to buy a product, you’d definitely want to get Jason’s.

He’s the absolute master and taught me much of what I know…

His teachings are practical and actionable - like the content on this site.